CUANDO LO LLAMO... ES COMO SI HABLARA CON LA PARED

Cuantas veces te has encontrado hablando con tu peque pero sin poder captar su atencióny acabando frustrado o enfadado porque " este/a niño/a no escucha.....  En este artículo, la autora de " educar niños sin lagrimas,  Elisabeth Pantley,  da con las claves básicas y  aporta trucos que nos pueden ayudar en esos momentos. Yo me he sentido muy identificada y espero que os sea útil a vosotros también.

When you call your child does it seem like he’s wearing ear plugs? After the third for fourth request do you have to go and get him? Here’s something to consider. Perhaps your child has learned exactly what you’ve taught him – the first three calls are just warm ups, and that you don’t really need him to move until you come and get him. But this routine can change! Here are some tips.

Lorelei, 3.5 yrs; Annabelle 1.5 yrs

Call. Wait. Act.

Follow this procedure: Visually locate your child. Call once. Wait three minutes. Go to your child, take him by the hand, say, “When I call, I would like you to come.” Then lead him to the desired location. If you do this consistently he will know that you really do expect him to come when called.

Watch how the adults in your family act.

Does the caller yell from two rooms away? Does the callee mumble, “in a minute” and then have to be reminded several times before responding? These are the models for your child’s behavior. Change the ways you respond to each other and model the behavior that you want of your child.

Call a time for transition.

Making a transition from one activity to another can be difficult for children. Instead of calling, “Come now!” try giving two warnings first, “You’ll need to come in five minutes.” A few minutes later, “Two minutes.” Then, “Please come in now.” At this point, if he doesn’t respond, go to him and take him by the hand saying, “When I call I would like you to come.”

Acknowledge your child’s desires.

Let him know that you understand he wants to continue playing, and then follow with a statement and an action that promotes compliance, “I bet you wish you could stay in the pool forever, but it’s time to go now. Here’s your towel.”

Use a dinner bell or timer to call your child.

Tell him that when he hears the bell, he needs to come before you count to fifty. This is a fun and specific indicator. If you have more than one child you can allow the first one to arrive to ring the bell a second time.

Check his hearing.

Make sure that your child has had a hearing test and that his failure to respond isn’t because of a hearing problem,

What not to do

Don’t call to your child from a distance.
The farther you are from your child the more likely he’ll ignore your calls.

Don’t call your child until you’re really ready for him to come.
If you summon your child, but then get involved in something else you are reinforcing that your call is only a forewarning that you’ll need him some time soon.

Need more tips?The No-Cry Discipline Solution is your answer for gentle ways to encourage good behavior without whining, tantrums and tears.